The Act of Rape is Not a Condition of Being Male

I’m writing this because I’m just damn tired of being branded a rapist by the doctrine of feminist philosophy. This is going to be a rant, but one that will be supported by facts and reason. There will be emotive language in this post, but those emotions will be backed by logic and reality.

First off, all reasonable men, including the ones who identify themselves as “feminists,”  should be deeply offended by the prevailing ideas regarding the male population and the crime of rape. Those ideas can be summed up by three concepts that are continuously put forth in the majority of feminist-supported platforms, including the US government by way of VAWA:

  1. One in four women are victims of rape.
  2. There is a culture of rape that permeates human society even to the modern day.
  3. Nearly all rape victims know their attacker.

Without taking the time to disprove these individual ideas, I can say that combined, these three ideas support one other underlying and frightening concept that is being put forth as “fact:”

Rape is not an action that is symptomatic of criminal or deviant behavior but something that is causal of being male.

Let me state this in another manner; the feminist philosophers and thinkers have disassociated the concept of rape with deviant behavior and re-associated it with being a facet of typical male behavior. The logical extension of this thinking (which has been stated in many feminist dialogs) is that any male can be a rapist granted motive and opportunity. One of the core documents of feminist philosophy, “Against Our Will” by Susan Brownmiller clearly states these ideas and promotes them as fact. Take this passage for example:

Man’s discovery that his genitalia could serve as a weapon to generate fear must rank as one of the most important discoveries of prehistoric times, along with the use of fire and the first crude stone axe. From prehistoric times to the present, I believe, rape has played a critical function…it is nothing more or less than a conscious process of intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of fear.

Read that passage again and consider what it says. Brownmiller is citing that “all men” consciously use rape as a tool. This is dangerous thinking and symptomatic of what is wrong with some divisions of feminist thought.

More dangerous thinking includes the infamous “one in four” statistic. I won’t get into how Mary Koss’ data collection methods purposely skewed the results to get her results. There are several websites that clearly dissect the reality of the “one in four” myth, but because of feminist political and social manipulation, any attempt to question this idea is immediately dismissed as “enabling rape,” “victim blaming,” or collectively as “misogynistic rhetoric.” Currently, now that flawed statistic has been adopted part and parcel within the arena of academia as now it is being claimed that this specifically applies to women who attend colleges and universities across America. If these people had their way, then the most horrific thing you could do is to send your daughter away to college, as it is almost mathematically certain that she will become a victim of rape. Universities are now afraid to counter those statistics for fear of being branded a “tool of the patriarchy.”

But here is the other thing; some feminists are changing the definition of rape in an attempt to vilify men and while doing so, discredit the viewpoints millions of Western women who have no problem with having sex with their chosen male partners. They have already absolved women from any responsibility for their sexual behavior while under the influence of alcohol. If after a drunken evening, a man unexpectedly wakes up in bed with a woman that he doesn’t remember meeting, it is just something we as men have to deal with and we have to accept whatever consequences which have resulted from the drunken encounter. But if a woman wakes up with a man she doesn’t remember meeting after a night of drinking, then she only has to cry rape and she is “absolved” of all other consequences of her behavior except for the biological ones (i.e. infection with a venereal disease, pregnancy).

The fact is that men have no out in regards to the consequences of a drunk hookup; all they can do is either pretend that it did not happen, or own up to the mistake and move on; they have nobody to blame for the situation other than the alcohol and their own lack of judgment. Women on the other hand have the agency (backed by law) to blame men for their situation rather than accept the possible truth that their own activity has led to their consequences.

Just recently in Utah, a man was arrested for rape; now here are the details. The victim met the man in a bar. The victim had imbibed a considerable quantity of alcohol. The victim agreed to take the man home. The man offered the victim a pill (revealed to be a prescription medication) and the victim accepted the pill willingly. The victim fell asleep but woke to find herself engaged in sexual intercourse with the man. She fell asleep again and then awoke again to find herself completely undressed. Now, while we have to acknowledge that the man in question was wrong for his actions in having non-consensual sex with the victim while she was incapacitated due to the drug, where does her responsibility come into play? She willingly brought the man to her home and willingly accepted a controlled substance (the pill) from a man she did not know and accepted at his word what the substance would do (which it did…he did not lie).

But when law enforcement agencies/organizations start campaigns to encourage women to be more careful and take more responsibility for their safety when they go out drinking, feminists choose to interpret this as an attack on women and “victim blaming.” They choose to interpret these studies and warnings as an attack on the victim, even though such research is simply attributing the consequences of an action.

If a person walks down the street openly displaying a large amount of money and gets robbed, while the robber is still at fault for his crime, the victim’s lack of caution presented the criminal with an opportunity. Criminals are the ultimate opportunists; when they see the chance to commit a crime, they will act upon it. Criminals should be punished for their crimes; I have no question in my mind about that fact. But that does not preclude the need for caution and the feminist drive to absolve women from their need for that caution is dangerous to say the least. And following that flawed logic, if women choose to ignore that caution and as a result rapes increase, their agenda is supported.

By the way and on the subject of “victim blaming,” this is the 21st Century; we are no longer collectively claiming that female rape victims are responsible for their becoming victims. There are countless resources available for victims of rape to receive counseling and support for their plight. While there are still individuals who continue to promote that flawed thinking, that is not the same as asking pointed questions regarding a rape investigation to determine what happened. There is no conspiracy which is promoting the idea that men should get away with rape, but what has happened is that the pendulum of justice has swung to the opposite extreme.

There has always been a historical injustice involved with adjudication of the crime of rape. In the United States alone, we have been through periods of history where women in general have incapable of receiving justice after being raped, African American men have been systematically considered “guilty until proven innocent” of the crime of raping a White woman, while the raping of an African slave by a White male was considered a social norm, and now we are living in a society where any male who has been accused of rape is automatically tried and found guilty by society at large and their judgment is often carried over into the municipal courts. Only now with the advent of genetic-based science being applied to crime scene investigation techniques as well as the advent of new communication/electronic presence devices (i.e. the Hofstra Case) are we starting to see the truth behind a number of rape cases. Men who were railroaded into jail because of rape accusations are now being released based upon DNA evidence placing them away from the crime scene. Other cases are being thrown out because electronically-derived evidence is being produced to either place the accused away from the crime scene or prove that the accuser has ulterior motives regarding her accusation. But even with these items, feminist supporters are crying for these items to be dismissed as a number of them still hold to the idea that women are incapable of lying about rape.

Another piece of ill-logic that is applied to men and rape is that while a child molester (regardless of gender) is seen as “mentally unbalanced,” a rapist is being portrayed as just “one of the guys.” Part of this is based upon the Koss study which many researchers use as a metric (albeit flawed) to base their research upon. Both rapists and child molesters display the same predatory behavior (though the rapist who targets adult women is allowed a broader freedom based upon the simple fact that their chosen prey is legally accessible for sexual activity). There are other traits that both predators share in their behavior. One trait is the “grooming” of the victim. Feminists will quickly tote out the fact that most rape victims know their attacker. If you compare this to a child molester grooming their victim, then it makes sense. The predator picks out his or her victim and then tries to get to know their victim in a twisted form of courtship, which eventually leads to the actual molestation/rape. In addition, though criminal psychologists have typically classified all other forms of criminal behavior as being symptomatic of a greater socio-psychological deviance, there is a concerted effort by the feminist lobby to avoid defining the rape of an adult female as deviant behavior by a male perpetrator.

We have to ask ourselves one question; what is there to be gained by this systematic drive to vilify men across the spectrum? Regardless of the answer to this question, it has to be understood that there is something very wrong going on here and I’m damn tired of seeing it go on. I am tired of being vilified because I am male. Then you have groups like “Men Can Stop Rape” who tote out feminist-inspired propaganda and attempt to guilt the men who attend into accepting the burden for all men that “rape is what men do.”

I am not a rapist and damn you all for saying different. Furthermore, as a victim of a false rape accusation and an African American male, as well as by the virtue of the dead African American men of Tulsa Oklahoma, Rosewood Florida, and every other place in this country where a Black man has been lynched/murdered because of the lie of a White woman, I have the right to this rant.

I’m done for now and if you want to post a response, feel free.



  1. The Mary Koss isn’t the only rape prevalence study out there, but it’s always dug out to disprove rape stats. You realize that study is 20 years old, and it was a single question that led to slightly ambiguous results? State studies in Texas & Virginia show about 20%. Other studies show less. Somewhere around 1 in 8 to 1 in 6 is probably right. So what now? That’s still a lot of rape.

    In regards to rape culture: it’s a pretty simple concept, it is a lens of looking at society that reveals specific inequalities which create the conditions in which rape is socially acceptable. By the way, it includes limiting male gender roles, how homophobia effects men, and how sexuality is portrayed in the media.

    And most women know their attacker. I would love to see a source of yours that indicates this isn’t true. This doesn’t mean you’re a rapist. This means of women who are raped, they were likely raped by an acquaintance.

    I’m not sure where you get the idea that these three premises mean people think you’re a rapist. Get reasonable.

    • I am reasonable; frighteningly so, in fact.

      Did any of the evidence I cited make any sense to you? You call in question my statement regarding the Koss study? So, I guess that you feel that the Kanin study was wrong, as well? What about the Brownmiller quote? Is that something I made up or took out of context? You are not looking at the broad picture and what is being perpetrated in the name of protecting women.

      And I still call “bullshit” on the idea of “rape culture,” in the US because the idea of rape is still a negative social stigmata. Men who are accused of rape whether guilty or not are socially ruined because of the accusation. If we lived in a so-called rape culture, then these men would not be so universally reviled, but applauded and celebrated. Talk to any man who has been accused of rape and see whether his being accused of that crime has improved his life. Talk to the Duke Lacrosse players and the boys from the Hofstra Case and see what being accused of rape has done for them. While you’re at, drum up the ghosts of the Scotsboro Boys, and the African American men killed in Tulsa, OK and Rosewood FL, and see what they have to say about what the wonders of a false rape accusation have done for them. Ask them whether I am being “reasonable” with what I am saying. The accusation of rape is a life-changing circumstance for the accused and it is never a change for the better…unless the person accused is actually a rapist.

      The issues regarding homophobia, gender roles, and sexuality in the media is just sociological window dressing meant to support the overall vilification of men as the source of all that is wrong in the world. These things in of themselves are problems, but they are problems on their own; they do not need to be shackled to the nebulous concept of “rape culture” in order to have verisimilitude in the context of social discourse. In fact, I feel that attaching these ideas to the concept of “rape culture” does them a disservice and lessens their veracity as valid issues in gender relations.

      On a side note, it is obvious to me that you did not read my entire post in the first place or you would not have called into question my statement about a rapist knowing their attacker. I clearly stated my personal reasoning for that in my post. I’ll give you a hint…look for the word “grooming.”

      Men are systematically being vilified by these “alleged feminists” and the law is aligned to support that vilification. If you don’t believe me, look up the Schrodinger’s Rapist post and read what the women think on the various blogs out there that discuss that idea. Go to any feminist discussion site and read what the women are saying. For every reasonable woman who calls “bullshit” on the idea that any man can be a rapist, there are two more who buy into that insanity totally. Just recently in the UK, a police operation obtained video evidence that a woman was falsifying evidence and making false rape accusations. Despite the evidence obtained, the organization “Women Against Rape” has clearly stated that they refuse to accept the evidence and stand by the accusation as being legitimate. A fellow named Pierce Harlan runs a site; The False Rape Society. You should go there and see what he has to say about this issue.

      I can’t make this stuff up, but you are free to believe what you want… until you become the victim of a false accusation. One night, you’re at a bar, you meet a girl, you both have a couple of drinks and the evening warms up. Then as the evening progresses, one thing leads to another, and then you two end up in bed. The next morning after you head home, you find the police waiting for you because that girl you hooked up the night before with didn’t remember saying “yes” because of the alcohol and has accused you of rape, Grant.

      Then what will you say, Grant?

      What will you say when it happens to you?

      And don’t say that it can’t…because in today’s society it can.

      • The Kanin study is ridiculous. You’re tossing Koss for poor methodology but letting Kanin in the door? It’s based on the opinions of law enforcement from one tiny jurisdiction. And, they required every victim to put submit to a polygraph. Ya think some recanted?

        And you caught me. I didn’t read your whole post. Your premise was so silly that I just couldn’t bear to read the wall of text below it.

        Per your nudge, I did go back and read your grooming part, and I think I get what you’re saying. You’re not unreasonable there, it is inferred by some that masculinity = rape-capable. It’s not a terrible savvy argument, and there’s complexities I’m not touching on (what’s assault? a cat-call or forced insertion?) and there’s research that illustrates factors that increase (some) men’s likelihood of engaging in that sort of violence.

        I’ve read Harlan’s stuff, but I don’t care for his tone. Aggressive, angry, cynical, and condescending. I think we’re better than that, and I think it does a disservice to everyone.

        Look. I’m sure false rape claims exist. I just have no reason to believe they are anywhere near as rampant as you’re saying they are. Reporting a rape sucks. The media gets ya. The court gets ya. You have to tell a fucked up story in public to strangers. It’s no fun. And being accused falsely sucks too, but I don’t think it’s an ever-present danger for every man. That’s just silly.

  2. He’s better than me? Hmm. That’s a fairly low standard, Grant. And I’ve never before been described as doing a disservice to EVERYONE. That’s really impressive of me.

    Can I cite your “that’s just silly” as authority? Nothing more authoritative than the serene ipse dixit of someone who doesn’t bother with silly things like, oh, facts and figures. Or objectivity.

    Not to be cynical or condescending, of course.

    • Thanks for posting, Pierce.

      As for Grant, I guess that this is something that you can’t relate to if you’ve never experienced it or known someone who has.

      But just to put it out there, this is something that African American men have been cognizant of for quite some time and White men are slowly starting to realize. In most jurisdictions, a woman’s accusation is all that is needed to convict a man of rape. I have lived that nightmare and I personally know nine other men who have been accused likewise of either rape, stalking, or similar sexually-offensive conduct by a woman. None of us were guilty, but everyone treated us as if we were.

      There is nothing like being accused of that crime; nothing in the world. Thieves and murderers receive more respect than rapists and the only criminals who are lower on the “totem pole” are child rapists. And the worst thing is that you know that you didn’t do it, but nobody cares and nobody will listen. Perhaps your family will consider your side of it, but that’s about it. People who stood by you for anything else you may have gone through, will suddenly distance themselves from you, as not to be tainted by your stigma.

      But I’m being silly to be upset by this and men who have a healthy fear of being railroaded by the system are silly too, eh?

      Well, at least you responded…I appreciate that you read my rant, whether you agreed with it or not. You may not believe what I’m writing about, Grant, but there are people who do and then there are people who are at least willing to beg the question and these are the people I am trying to reach.

  3. You said:
    “And I still call “bullshit” on the idea of “rape culture,””

    “The U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics states that 91% of rape victims are female and 9% are male, and 99% of rapists are male.”

    “One of six U.S. women has experienced an attempted or completed rape”

    These are not some numbers given by Feminists, these are the Bureau of Justice’s numbers.

    *99*% of rapists are male. Let that sink in: 99% are male so yes, of COURSE we live in a Rape Culture of COURSE men are the one that can stop rape.

    I mean, OMG WTF is RONG w/t U?

    • It’s called logic. Your evidence does not support the concept of “rape culture.” It simply states statistics regarding the crime of rape.

      You can find “cultural” indicators surrounding all sorts of illegal activities. There are groupies that celebrate serial killers (e.g. women who actively wrote and claimed sexual attraction to serial killer Ted Bundy). There are conventions nationally-published magazines celebrating drug culture. There are open national organizations that advocate pedophilia.

      There is no cultural zeitgeist surrounding the act of raping women. There are no icons who are celebrated for being “exceptional rapists.” There are no gatherings or publications that discuss “how to be a better rapist of women.” There is no “National Man Woman Rape Association.”

      In short and to paraphrase the definition of the word “culture;” there is no quality in our society that arises from a concern for what is regarded as excellent in the act of raping a woman.

      However, it is a verifiable fact that the act of rape is crime; an illegal and punishable offense in all 50 states of the US and in all provinces of Canada.

      That is why I call “bullshit” on the idea of “rape culture.”

      Thank you for writing and have a good day.

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